“How are you feeling today?” It’s a question we’ve heard countless times softened by routine, tossed casually into conversations, and often answered on autopilot.
“I’m fine.”
“I’m good.”
“All okay.”
But are we, really? We say “fine” because it’s easier. Because we don’t want to burden. Because we don’t always know how to explain what’s going on inside. And maybe because we haven’t paused long enough to ask ourselves the same question.
Over the years, I’ve watched this question turn into a formality. Something we ask while half-listening, while scrolling our phones, while waiting for our chai (or comfort of your choice in a cup) to arrive. Honestly, in these moments, none of these circumstances truly made me feel compelled to answer genuinely.
“How are you feeling today?”. It’s the easiest question to ask, and it’s the easiest to lie through. A placeholder between “Hello” and “Let’s get to the point.” I sincerely believe that beneath our auto-responses, we’re breaking quietly (collectively, unknowingly).
But what if we let the question breathe again? What if we asked it like we meant it and answered it like we mattered? Maybe then, “How are you feeling today?” wouldn’t just be a phrase. It will be a way to hold space for someone else or a way to hold space for yourself. It would be a pause. A mirror. A beginning.
You don’t have to tell anyone, but maybe you can tell yourself (first). Maybe you are feeling a little bit of everything. A little lost, a little grounded. A little heavy, a little hopeful. And maybe… that’s okay. And maybe, today is a good day to answer this…wholeheartedly
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